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April 2015



14 Classic Wedding Mistakes and How You Can Avoid Them

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These are 14 classic wedding mistakes that are easy to make but can also easily be avoided. Make sure you don’t make the same mistakes by reading my guide and following my advice.

1. Buying a wedding dress that is a size too small telling yourself that you’ll be able to lose the weight by then. This is a very common mistake….a dress can be made smaller but not bigger!!! Always buy the size that you are when you order, it’s going to save you a lot of worry in the long run.

Back Fat Wedding Dress

2. Buying accessories before your dress. If you try to find a dress to match any accessories you’ve already bought, your’re heading for dress shopping meltdown. Odds are, you’ll find the dress of your dreams and it’ll not match anything you’ve bought. The dress should be chosen first then the accessories should be chosen to complement it – not the other way round!

3. Booking your venue before checking the registrar is available. You’ve found your dream venue, decided on a date and want to get everything booked as soon as possible. But what if the registrar isn’t available that day or at a time you want? Put a tentative hold on the date with your venue, most venues will hold the date for 7-14 days without a deposit. Once your venue is held, call the local registrar to make sure they have availability. Once you know they are free it’s full steam ahead.


4. Not buying wedding insurance. Wedding insurance can cover you for most things from your venue burning down to your florist having the flu. Insurance costs from as little as £20 so what it your excuse for not having it???

5. Leaving too big a gap between the ceremony and wedding breakfast. This is when your professional photos are taken, but if it takes longer than an hour and a half your guests are going to get bored. Book some entertainment like a magician or pianist, organise games or serve canapes during this time to keep them occupied.

6. Not leaving enough time for hair and make-up. Ask your hairdresser and make-up artist how long it will take to get everyone’s hair and make-up done. Set your alarm so you have plenty of time and are not rushed.

Bridal Makeup

7. Wearing your hair up, when you or your fiance have always preferred it down. You don’t have to have your hair up just because it’s a wedding. The more you stick to your natural look, the more comfortable and confident you’ll feel.

8. Not getting a manicure. Your hands are going to be looked at and photographed all day. Getting a manicure is a must!


9. Not getting your engagement ring cleaned. You may have had your engagement ring for a few years, so when put next to your brand new wedding ring it’s going to look less than it’s sparkly best. Get it cleaned the week before the wedding so it looks brand new.

10. Forgetting to eat on the day. You’ll be so busy you will be amazed how easy it is to not eat on your big day. Schedule time to have breakfast before getting ready and ensure that you sit down and eat your wedding breakfast. Also make sure you make it to the evening buffet…you’ve paid for it so it would be a shame not to sample it!


11. Not saying hello to all your guests. The line up is used less and less at weddings, but it is the perfect way of speaking to every one of your guests if you’re having a large reception. Say a quick hello and thank you for coming to your evening guests too, they will appreciate it.

12. Not getting a picture with your mum, grandparents, best friend. It is very easy to forget certain photographs. Speak to your photographer before the wedding and make sure they know who you want photographs taken with.


13. Forgetting to feed your wedding suppliers. Your photographer and videographer are with you all day, they need to eat too. They don’t need a seat with your guests eating the same as everyone else, but a hot meal is normally much appreciated. You can then invite them and your band/DJ to help themselves to the buffet in the evening.

14. Getting worked up over little things. You can’t do anything about rain on your wedding day, no one will notice if the table isn’t laid exactly as you discussed with your venue. Yes it’s a little annoying but concentrate on all the good stuff and all the little niggles will disappear!

Photography by Craig Mitchelldyer 503.513.0550

These are the most common mistakes people make. If you have any questions or need advice on any of the above or anything else while planning your wedding, leave me a comment or email

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April 2015



How to have Happy Bridesmaids

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It’s your big day, but your bridesmaids need to be happy too! Having happy bridesmaids means less stress for you on the run up to your wedding. Plus these ladies are the ones who will help your day be the best ever!!!  Here are some ways you can keep your bridesmaids on side and your stress levels rock bottom.


1. Give them a choice – Talk through your colour scheme with them, ask for their input on the style of dresses they will be wearing, what materials they like etc. Make sure you tell them what’s important to you but remember, they have to wear it. If you want them all in the same colour, consider letting them choose a style of dress they like but all in the same material and colour. If you’re having mismatched, give them a range of colours and/or styles to choose from.
Most bridesmaids will wear whatever you ask them to, but at least by giving them a choice, it stops them accusing you of being a total bridezilla!

Pretty Flowers

2. Make sure they all get to know each other – If your bridesmaids don’t already know each other, set up a time for them all to meet. Maybe afternoon tea or a dinner date. Don’t do it on the day you’re all going dress shopping for the first time. It might be a good idea to introduce them to the entire bridal party before the big day too….knowing who the parents, best man, ushers etc are is always helpful!

3. Treat them all the same – Don’t have a favourite. Competition and jealousy aren’t good between bridesmaids. If you’re having a maid of honour or a chief bridesmaid, make it clear to all involved who they are from the very start….but I would personally try to avoid labelling anyone if possible.


4. Plan everything well in advance – It’s your big day, but remember that your bridesmaids all have other stuff going on. Try and organise shopping trips, dress fittings etc in advance to make sure your bridesmaids can all attend. Don’t get stroppy if your bridesmaids can’t drop everything and come running every time you have a bridal meltdown….they love you but they have commitments too.

5. Consider their budgets – It’s very expensive for a bridesmaid to attend your wedding. Before asking for them to shell out for a dress, shoes, hair, makeup or anything else, consider if they can afford it. Remember they’re going to have the hen party, your wedding present and accommodation at the wedding to pay for too!


6. Make them feel special – Organise lots of fun time together, buy them small gifts during the planning, and then spoil them with a special bridesmaid gift on the day. Be the best bride you can be – treat your bridesmaids well, and they will return the favour……you need these ladies….especially when you need the loo!!!!


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April 2015



Pamela and William’s Stunning Lodge Wedding on Loch Lomond

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Pamela and William were married on Sunday 27th July 2014 at Lodge on Loch Lomond. They met while on a night out in Glasgow and had their first date the following week. They went for lunch at The Left Bank restaurant in Glasgow.

The proposal happened on a Sunday morning in Pamela’s flat. William got up early to make bacon rolls and when Pamela went into the kitchen, she found William with a ring! She said “he didn’t get down on one knee, but it was very much a surprise”.

They chose Lodge on Loch Lomond as the venue for both their ceremony and reception. Pamela said “My family have always loved going to Loch Lomond. My dad has always had a sailing boat on the loch and we have many happy memories there. So we couldn’t think of a better place.”

Lodge on Loch Lomond

Pamela wore a Pronovias dress from Anne Priscilla Bridal in Glasgow. She said “It was the second dress I tried on. I knew I wanted something a little less traditional but not too far removed. It was made with fine layers of chiffon and was quite slim fitting”. Because the dress had long sleeves and a high neckline, Pamela kept her accerssories to a minimum. She wore her Gran’s pearl studs and a detailed headdress.

A beautician that is a family friend did the bridal parties hair and make-up. “She did an amazing job of transforming my face but still managing to keep it natural looking.” “I knew I wanted my hair up because my hair is so fine it would have looked flat and washed out by the end of the day. Plus, being the summer it was quite warm and I didn’t want it to be sweaty. The bridesmaids all had their hair up also. Their styles were very similar but not exactly the same.”

Pamela Loch Lomond

Pamela didn’t set out with a colour scheme, but after choosing pink for her 4 bridesmaids dresses, everything else was chosen to fit in. Her bridesmaids were her sister, best friend and William’s two sisters. Their dresses were floor length, one shouldered, slim fitting chiffon. The dresses suited all their figures and colourings. They were also bought from Anne Priscilla Bridal. The girls wore pearl bracelets with matching pearl drop earrings.

The groom and best man wore dark grey tweed kilts.

Pamela and William had a short religious ceremony officiated by Pamela’s parents neighbour who is a minister and who has known Pamela since she was a child.

Loch Lomond Wedding Ceremony

Lynne Knott, the florist, provided the table centre pieces on tall podiums as well as podiums of flowers at the entrance and for the ceremony. Pamela hired a white aisle, tea light holders and chair sashes from All Dressed Up, Alexandria. The favours were whiskey miniatures for the men and heart shaped tablet for the ladies.

For the evening reception, Pamela and William hired a band called Something Blue who had been recommended to them by friends. Their first dance was to Paolo Nutini, Loving You. “We didn’t want anything too cheesy.”

“Our photographer was Alan Snelling. He had been recommended to us by the piper, Donald MacKenzie, who my uncle knew! I would recommend Alan to other brides. He was very friendly and Patient! Our florist was Lynne Knott. Again, recommended to us by a mutual friend. Our stationery was provided by Vicky MacKenzie. I picked up her card at the Loch Lomond Wedding Fair. Her personalised cartoon drawings caught my eye. Our cake was made by  Lyndsey at Custom Cakes. The cake was 3 tiers and very simple with a personalised cake topper from Not on the High street. It was plain sponge and fruit”.

For their honeymoon Pamela and William were initially looking to go to Positano in Italy. However, after seeing an advert for a luxury Eco cottage on the Isle of Islay they changed their minds. Pamela said “It was beautiful and very relaxing. After the lead up to the big day it was lovely having the peace and quiet with no one else. Not to mention visiting the 9 whiskey distilleries and beautiful beaches!”

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Photographer: Alan Snelling Photography 

Venue: Lodge on Loch Lomond 

Flowers: Lynne Knott

Cake: Custom Cakes by Lynsey

Cake Topper: Not on the High Street 

Brides Dress By: Pronovias

Bride and Bridesmaid Dresses from: Anne Pricilla Bridal 

Stationery: Vicky MacKenzie 

Piper: Donald MacKenzie 

Decor: All Dressed Up

Band: Something Blue 



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March 2015



Introducing Paperless Wedding – Digital Wedding Invitations

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Paperless Wedding was born back in 2008 for Emma and Jim’s own wedding.  Emma’s lovely husband Jim, wrote all the code and they designed the site together.  After great feedback from their guests, they decided that they would turn it into a business.  They moved to New Zealand and Jim, with help from the talented designer Ruari McDowall, set about creating a new site. In September 2009 Paperless Wedding was launched.

A year later Emma and Jim were living in Sydney, Australia and decided to launch the site there as well. Both sites were going strong, so on their return to the UK in 2011 they started to think about launching here. A new house and a beautiful daughter kept them busy in 2012 and 2013 so there were no excuses for making their dreams come true in 2014.

Paperless Wedding was launched in the UK in September 2014 after a complete redesign and new features. Emma and Jim could not have done it without the amazing support and talents of Sky Blue Creations, now it is up to Emma to take the new site and let everyone know about it!

Botanical invite

Paperless Wedding offer digital wedding invitations and a matching website that are eco friendly, unique and an easy way to invite your guests to your wedding. They enable you to do all the correspondence normally sent in the post via a beautifully designed email invitation. All your information about your wedding will be available on your personalised website. You can add additional pages to your website to cover accommodation, engagement stories, gift lists; the options are endless. There is a Gallery for your photos before and after the big day, guest book and the ability to email out reminders to guests.There are template designs and an ability to create your own theme too. You can make it so it fits perfectly with your theme for the big day. It is easy to set up and saves you time and money.

Dotti Over You Website

Paperless Wedding is the perfect solution for destination weddings, for couples with guests all over the world, or for the eco-minded couple
Emma’s advice is “You don’t have to go exclusively digital for your wedding invitations. Lots of people love receiving stuff through the post that are not bills and wedding invitations are so pretty and full of good news. So why not cut down on all the additional paper that goes in your invitation and put it on a wedding website instead?  You put the Web Address (URL) into your paper invitation, leaving your guests to login in when they want to gather all the additional information.  You can update the website right up to your big day, keeping your guests well informed and reducing the number of phone calls you might get!”

They currently have a free 2 week trial or free Save The Dates on their website.

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March 2015



Ben and Kate’s Amazing Tipi Wedding

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Ben and Kate were married at All Saints and Salutation Church in Darlington followed by a Tipi Reception in the field next to the church.

Luke Holroyd, the photographer said “Kate & Ben’s wedding for me was the highlight of 2014, I couldn’t have dreamed of a better setting, bride & groom and weather to photograph a wedding! Like most people looking to book a wedding photographer they usually ask for recommendations, and Kate & Ben couldn’t have had a more reliable recommendation through Ben’s sister Amy. I actually studied photography with Amy at Derby University so she knew me and my portfolio probably better than anyone!”


“Kate & Ben are an awesome couple, and I first got to meet them in Kate’s hometown of Darlington for their pre-wedding shoot. Well, what a contrast the weather was compared to the wedding date. I’ve never seen rain or at least photographed in rain like it. We could have easily agreed to cancel and just have a chat, but Kate & Ben were ready to embrace the lovely British Weather.”


“Their wedding day.. it was fantastic! Held in Darlington, surrounded by awesome family & friends it was truly a pleasure to capture. The ceremony and reception were all held at the same venue, in which Kate & Ben had transformed the church’s field into one of the best wedding venues I’ve seen to date. Who could ask for better backdrops than TeePee’s, muddy Land Rovers, fantastic colours and car engines for table decorations!”


Kate’s advice is to make your planning experience one to remember; make sure that it is a team effort. “The day is a celebration of you spending the rest of your lives together. Ben has a love of cars and mud and I have a love of bright colours, everything being clean and pretty. It was amazing how we collectively organised such an amazing day.”


Kate said “If I was able to do it all again, I would have been a little more understanding regarding the politics that surround a wedding, with who should sit where and who should come. Sometimes you need to take a step back and realise that people can be a little crazy and you may feel stressed and worried but those feelings are felt by everyone involved.”




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Venue TeePee: Papakata

Flowers: Eliza Blooms, Darlington 

Dress: Madeleine Gardner

Mens Suits: Moss Bros (Ted Baker)

Table Plan/ Calligraphy: Sam Green Calligraphy

Photographer: Luke Holroyd Photography 

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